June 12, 2019 Julia deleted her Instagram today. I noticed because I was on my way to the toilet and something made me think of her and then I wanted to look at pictures of her baby and husband and new house in Miami. You know, look at her life. Fine, judge it. I tried […]
I’ve always believed if I was prettier, if I looked like Audrey Hepburn or Angelina Jolie, I’d be happier. That if I had some type of rare beauty, nothing would ever be wrong. What I’m realizing now, however, is that beauty is such an elusive, intangible concept that no one, even if we think they […]
It’s fair to say women are master interpreters. To our detriment or advantage, we can read between the lines of almost anything. The presence or absence of an exclamation mark; the difference between ‘best’ and ‘cheers’; the use of hello versus hi. We know what people are really thinking, even if they don’t. I’m embarrassed […]
A few weeks ago, I talked about the importance of having a routine. How writers, artists, entrepreneurs, all follow unique schedules in order to keep a certain rhythm, focus and intent to their days. One thing I didn’t mention about the routine was the importance of rituals. If routines are the rigid structures that keep […]
“Hi.” He knelt down next to her. She was flipping through a new cookbook at the kitchen table, one of those Ottolenghi ones, marking off recipes she probably wouldn’t make anyway. Not out of lack of skill but rather lack of care to try anything new. “Hi?” She met his gaze, eye level with him […]
“I don’t know what it is. I’m just not happy.” “But you just got an apartment! You’re engaged! You have a job! You have so much!” This is a conversation I had with someone the other day. It’s also a conversation I have in my head maybe three times a day. I don’t know what […]
Ego depletion is a concept currently being discussed in the academic world around the idea of ‘willpower’ being a finite resource. Like energy, willpower is a resource that can be used up and has to be replenished. If you don’t replenish your willpower pool, you will find yourself susceptible to irritability and have a much […]
2018: The Year The year I started in New York. The year I ended up in Asia. The year I swung from Kyoto, to LA, to Hawaii, and back to Kyoto again. The year I spent my mornings drinking green tea with barley. The year I spent my nights wrapped around a grapefruit sho-chu. The […]