Melanie “Mel” Robbins is an American on-air CNN commentator, television host, life coach, author, motivational speaker, contributing editor for Success (magazine). Robbins is best known for her coverage of the George Zimmerman trial and host of A&E’s Monster In-Laws.
Prior to joining CNN, Robbins worked as a criminal defense attorney, launched and sold a retail and internet technology company according to her official website and hosted Cox Media Group’s “The Mel Robbins Show,” A&E’s “Monster In-Laws,” FOX’s “Someone’s Gotta Go” and was a contributing editor to Success Magazine. In 2011, Robbins published her first book: “Stop saying you’re fine”. On February 28, 2017, Robbins will release her second book “The Five Second Rule”.
In a 2011 TED Talk in San Francisco she talks about what it takes to change your life and get everything you want. She states,
“Changing your life to do what you want is simple (but not easy). Getting off your auto pilot is not easy, but you need to break from your habits to change your auto pilot course and truly achieve what you want.”
So, get off your ass. Put a list together of things you want to achieve and make it happen without thinking our following your feelings. Forget feelings and do what you want or what you desire.
She goes on to state that the main reason people don’t get what they want from life is because they don’t even know how to answer that simple question. What do you want?
Why don’t you have what you want? You have all the information you need and all the contacts you need? It all comes down to one word. Fine.
The bigger issue with ‘fine’ is that you say it to yourself. That thing you want, you convinced yourself you’re fine not having it. That’s why you’re not pushing yourself.
All day long you have ideas that could change your life and what do you do with them? Nothing. Because you’re fine. You’re fine in your bed, you’re fine in your job. You’re fine with not having everything you ever wanted.
Listen to her TEDTalk below to get the steps you need to get out of “fine” mode and start achieving your dreams.
Don’t just clear the air and wait for a miracle that someone will hand you the better version of your life now that you know what it is, and what you don’t want anymore. And don’t wait to be inspired or motivated to do things differently. That may never come. Just do things differently. It can be as simple as that. Change your routines. It will stir up the stale energy that keeps you stuck and “on the autopilot” and allow for new opportunities to point you in the right direction. All you need to reveal is the next step. One little step that will get you on a different life, career or relationship path.