“How wrong is it for a woman to depend on a man to build the world she deserves?”-Anais Nin
Well, she’s my favorite writer. I love how honest she has been with her writings. How knowing her made me evaluate my beliefs and about how most women see themselves.
It is almost natural for a woman to depend so much of her happiness to a man. Who can blame us?
Since birth, we were led to believe that we exist because of Adam. We were told that God thought Adam was lonely and so He created Eve. Yup, this is the sad truth of our origin and existence. But I’d like to believe woman was created because she is his equal. She can build the world she wants for herself with or without him.
However, most women tend to accept who came instead of who she deserves. So, a lot of women hide their pain away and try to settle in a relationship that physically, mentally and emotionally abuses them. As if being caught in such horrible situation is something they must endure.
I am appalled to think how some men use their strength and power to cage and clip her wings.
If I could just whisper on every scared girl’s ear of how she deserves more than broken promises and sweet nothings, I would have.
If I could just rescue all battered wife to come out of that dark closet and flee, I would have.
Woman, do not think for one second you should welcome so much pain and disappointment. That you should be rightfully be taken for granted and to be set aside, to be lied to nor to feel like you’re an option – like you are some kind of a spare tire.
Do not belittle yourself. Do not become that kind of person who looks back and say how much you wasted time thinking this time he is going to change. He never did and never will.
“You are born to build.” (Sarah Kay)
Always know that every little thing about you was created to serve as your strength -your curves, your smile, your mind and your warmth. Even your tears are weapons you should not waste on some guy who said will defend you.
And I could never stress enough how beautiful your existence is. You have to believe it yourself and do not let anyone to tell you otherwise.
Author Notes : This piece was posted on my personal blog wordsofgabby.wordpress.com. I am sending it to reach wider audience. I use Gabryela Speaks as my pen name and I hope to use it if it is alright just in case you will love this article.