Listen to your body and to your mind. Be attentive and give it the attention it needs. But at some point you’ve got to stop taking everything so seriously. It will break you, your mind isn’t made to process thoughts of sorrow and pain on this scale. Give yourself a break and never lose your humour.
My ex boyfriend would ALWAYS say this to me. It was his go-to. Every single time I felt unsure or upset.
“Is there anything I can do? Just let me know.”
“Seriously, just let me know. If there’s anything I can do. Let me know.”
After the 100th time, what is the person on the receiving end supposed to do? Other than accept the offered sentence and sit in silence? I didn’t want to “let him know”. He thought he was helping, but it felt more like he was cheating at the sympathy game, if that’s a thing.
It bothered me so much. I didn’t know why. I couldn’t explain it to myself.
You just told me everything I couldn’t figure out. Thank you.
My very clever sister said this to my Mother; about the assistance Mum gave to my Brother and his Wife.
“Are you doing what they want, or what you want?”
Sometimes, helping can be construed as interfering, if it’s not what is wanted.
Creating conflict is not helping.
“I do so much for them!” Yes, but is it wanted? Maybe the parents would rather live with the mountains of washing and would much prefer you came round and played with the grand kids. Happy times and happy sounds.