Though you have known someone for more than forty years, though you have worked with them and lived with them, you do not know everything. I do not know everything — but a few things, which I will tell. M. had will and wit and probably too much empathy for others; she was quick in speech and she did not suffer fools. When you knew her she was unconditionally kind. But also, as our friend the Bishop Tom Shaw said at her memorial service, you had to be brave to get to know her. – An excerpt from Mary Oliver’s memoir ‘Our World’ about her 40 year relationship with Molly Cook. Oliver wrote the book after Cook died. It’s considered part memoir, part deeply moving eulogy to a departed soul mate, part celebration of their love for one another through their individual creative loves.